Three characteristics usually determine whether a comment is one of praise or one of acknowledgment:
1. Praise often starts with a reference to oneself: “I am so proud of you for . . . .” or “I like the way . . . .” Even “I noticed that . . . .” can be a trap because it focuses on what you think rather than on simply acknowledging what your child has done.
2. Praise is patronizing. If you would not make the comment to an adult, then think twice before making it to a young person.
3. Praise is often stated as a general comment, such as, “That’s good.” An acknowledgment, by contrast, calls attention … >>>
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