Posts Tagged Authority without coercion

Reduce Power Struggles to Reduce Stress

I believe most theories about the stress and strain dealing with young people of all ages—especially adolescents—have focused incorrectly on such factors as physical changes, emerging sexuality, new social pressures, and struggles between being a child and an adult.

This period is often difficult for both young people and parents. As young people grow, conflicts arise. A prime reason is that the young want to become independent, but adults continue to exert authority with coercion and expect obedience. Attempts at continual control so often lead to counterwill—the natural human tendency to resist being controlled. This leads to power struggles, which lead to even more resistance, reluctance, resentment, and even rebellion.

Parents assume that rebellion is inevitably a function of development. … >>>


Defiant Student at Spring Valley High School

In the U.S. news: Coercion used on defiant student at Spring Valley High School in Columbia, South Carolina results in police officer being fired.

The video showing the defiant student being flipped over while sitting at her desk has gone viral. One side says that force was too extreme. The other side says that the defiant student should have followed the police officer’s request and that the force used was justified.

I was asked what I would have done in this situation.  I would have used a third option. I would have used authority without coercion. First, the power struggle should have been avoided. When adults argue with a young person, it is like arguing with a pig. Both … >>>


Discipline Without Stress Newsletter – June 2015

 Volume 15 Number 6


  1. Welcome
  2. Promoting Responsibility
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  4. Improving Relationships
  5. Promoting Learning
  6. Parenting
  7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
  8. Reviews and Testimonials 




You can get all A’s and still flunk life. —Walker Percy

A well-known wordsmith once approached Noah Webster, the lexicographer, and said, “Mr. Webster, did you know that ‘sugar’ is the only word in the English Language in which the ‘su’ is pronounced as if it were ‘shu’?”

Webster relied, “Are you sure?”

Many school districts are starting to limit the types of consequences that teachers and administrators can impose for unruly classroom and school behaviors. This is resulting in a significant increase in discipline problems where the staff

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