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May 2018

Monthly Newsletter

Remember that in relationships with your children—regardless of age—not losing is more important than winning. As long as a person has a choice, that person does not lose. So, always offer choices or options—regardless of how small they may be. This is the easiest approach to avoid counterwill, the natural human tendency to resist coercion and the feeling of being controlled, which everyone resents.

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April 2018

Monthly Newsletter
I am excited to announce a new feature called “Ask Me Anything” (A.M.A) in my monthly newsletters. I invite YOU to submit QUESTIONS to me on ANY SUBJECT OR TOPIC. You can send your questions via e-mail.

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March 2018

“How is offering choices teaching children that there are some things in life they have to do regardless of their mood or sense of power like bathing, attending school, later holding a job, being responsible for themselves when their choices are limited? If everything become negotiable, if they think they will always have choices, what happens when sometimes in real life there are few or no choices, or they don’t like any of the choices?”

Everyone makes choices every awake moment. We make a choice to get out of bed in the morning—or stay in bed, what we eat—or not eat, to brush our teeth—or not to, what to say—or don’t say, etc.

Choices are always available, although the … >>>


February 2018

New living without stress tip, parenting withoutstress tip, and teaching withoutstress tip.


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January 2018

Assumptions are beliefs taken for granted. They are so natural and involuntary they usually do not enter our consciousness. We assume that when we get out of bed, the floor will be beneath us and that when we mail a letter the intended recipient will receive it.

However, there are also assumptions we make that may not be valid. For example, we may assume that someone is angry with us by the manner in which that person speaks to us. Yet it could be that the person is feeling frustrated by an event entirely unconnected to us and is simply “taking it out” on the first person encountered—in this case, you.

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December 2017

Stress Management News

To reduce your stress and improve relations with young people, always consider giving options or choices. The choices can be limited, but the sooner a young person starts to make choices the more responsible that person becomes.

Offering options is an easy strategy to encourage decision-making. For example, simply asking a child, “Would you prefer to wear your brown pants or your blue ones?” or “Would you like to eat your carrots or peas first?” structures options and promotes decision-making.

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November 2017

Parenting Tip:
Remember that being positive in your communications is a more constructive teacher than sending negative messages. Your children do better when they feel good, not when they feel bad.

Speaking to children about what you WANT—in contrast to what you DON’T want—prompts feelings of being valued, supported, respected, motivated, and challenged. Communicating in positive terms also triggers enthusiasm, capability, and pride. These approaches promote maturity while bringing more joy to parenting.



October 2017

Quote of the Month
Stress Management Video
Parenting Without Stress
Discipline without Stress
Living Without Stress
Speaking and Presenting
What People Say




September 2017

It’s almost amazing how the words we use can prompt emotions. Here is a classic example:

A blind man was sitting in a public square with an empty can of pencils and a cardboard sign that read, “I’m blind. Please help.”
A young woman walked by and changed the words on his cardboard sign.
Many coins were soon heard being dropped into the blind man’s pencil can.
The young woman had changed the blind man’s sign to read: “It’s a beautiful day and I can’t see it.”

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August 2017

In This Issue:

Quote of the Month
Stress Management Video Tip
Parenting Without Stress Tip
Discipline Without Stress Tip
Live Without Stress Book
Discipline Online
Speaking and Presenting
Charity for U.S. Schools
What People Say

On Parenting: The key to truly enjoying parenting is to understand that—although you can control children—you cannot change them. So what do you do? You stay in authority but without using coercion so that relations remain positive. You remain in control by the questions you ask.

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July 2017 Newsletter


I’ve heard people mention that consequences can be set up with students ahead of time in the Raise Responsibility System (RRS). I find this confusing because I remember reading in Dr. Marshall’s book that he thinks it’s counterproductive to tell students about consequences ahead of time. Can you explain?

My Response:

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June 2017 Newsletter

14 Tips on
How NOT to be an
Overprotective (helicopter) Parent

1. Have the mindset of raising young people to be secure yet empowered to have wings.

2. Realize that every time you do something that a young person can do, you are depriving that person of taking responsibility and developing positive self-esteem.

3. Understand that if you want a young person to be mature, you must ask yourself if what you are doing is in the young person’s best interest or is something you want because it feels good for you.


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May 2017 Newsletter


Having become too long for quick reading, my monthly newsletter has been revised.

Former editions included topics of Promoting Responsibility, Increasing Effectiveness, Improving Relationships, and Promoting Learning.

Articles and suggestions on these are still included in my blogs, menu bar links, articles, and books on my website, WithoutStress.com.

The contents of the newsletter will now be primarily limited to suggestions in my three major books and/or my YouTube channel.… >>>


April 2017 Newsletter

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Switching from Imposing Discipline to Promoting Responsibility

No one has an inherent desire to obey—to be told what to do—not even children. However, when responsibility is promoted, obedience follows as a natural by-product.

Of course, learning how to promote responsibility in others takes practice and patience. Going from the mindset of imposing discipline to one of promoting positivity, offering choices, and asking reflective questions takes time. No matter how long you’ve been parenting, teaching or supervising, making the switch to the new methodology will be fraught with ups and downs. The key is to be persistent.… >>>


March 2017 Without Stress Newsletter

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When raising and disciplining children, many teachers and parents rely on rules. They devise rules for homework, rules for chores, rules for behavior, and so on.

In practice, however, the use of the term “rules” is often counterproductive. Rules are used to control—not inspire. Although essential in games, rules are counterproductive in relationships.

Think of it this way: If a rule is broken, a mindset of enforcement is naturally created. The adult’s thinking goes something like, “If I don’t do something about this, it will occur again and I’ll lose my authority.” The situation between the adult and child immediately becomes adversarial. Read More>>>


February 2017 Newsletter

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Promoting responsibility – Choices
Offering choices is quite easy since choices are always available once you consider that not making a choice is also a choice.

Improving relationships between teachers and students

How do you deal with the impulsive students?

If you find that disciplining your children and fostering a sense of responsibility in them is stressful or unsuccessful, the use of traditional parenting approaches may be the problem. … >>>


Without Stress Newsletter – January 2017

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Without Stress Newsletter – December 2016

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Volume 16 Number 12 December 2016
Newsletter #185


  1. Welcome
  2. Reducing Stress
  3. Promoting Responsibility
  4. Increasing Effectiveness
  5. Improving Relationships
  6. Promoting Learning
  7. Parenting Without Stress
  8. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
  9. What People Say



Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection.
—Winston Churchill
The eBook version of LIVE WITHOUT STRESS: HOW TO ENJOY THE JOURNEY will soon be available online at Amazon’s Kindle store for $9.99. Comments from people who have read the draft are available.

1 Assumptions
2 The Brain-Body Connection
3 External vs. Internal Motivation

4 Positivity
5 Choices
6 Reflection

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Dr. Marvin Marshall
Phone: 714.220.1882
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