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The Facts about Changing Others

The third practice for parenting without stress and for raising responsible children is called Reflection. In order to understand the power and significance of reflection, you need a clear understanding of two basic facts of life:

  • The first is that any control of another person is temporary.
  • The second is that attempting to control another person is really an attempt to change that person.

As long as we believe that we can change another person, there is a natural tendency for a parent to employ force or coercion, especially when the young person doesn’t do what we want.

Just for a moment, think of one person with whom you have had a personal relationship—a child, spouse, significant other, parent, … >>>