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Children Learn What They Live

On January 14, 2013   /   Parenting  

I came across this poem recently and thought the overall message fit nicely with the themes contained in the Discipline & Parenting Without Stress models.

Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn … >>>

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Tone of Voice and Effectiveness

On December 12, 2012   /   Effectiveness, Parenting  

When asking reflective questions, be sure you don’t shout them. The adage, “What you are doing speaks so loudly that I can’t hear what you are saying” rings true here. Your tone of voice communicates almost as much as the words. It reminds me of the following poem:

It’s not only what you say
But the manner in which you say it.
It’s not only the language you use
But the tone in which you convey it.
 
“Come here!” I sharply said,
And the child cowered and wept.
“Come here,” I gently said. He looked and smiled
And straight to my lap he crept.
 
Words may be mild and fair
But the tone can pierce like a dart.
Words may
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