Perhaps of all the approaches I have discovered, the most simple yet most effective one is eliciting, in contrast to imposing.
The following are from notes taken by Joy Pelton after attending one of my presentations—used with her permission:
ELICIT a consequence; don’t impose it.
Don’t tell a student what is going to happen if. . . . Rather, REDIRECT by saying, “George, what do you suggest we do about this?” “What else?” “What else?” until George comes up with a consequence that you agree with. Then respond with, “I can live with that.”
PEOPLE DON’T ARGUE WITH THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
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