Anger Management 101

Anger management is an important skill to master these days. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with an emotional person? If you have, you probably realized it was an act of futility. This stress management tip will help you take the sting out of such future conflicts and be a master at anger management.

Regardless of the person’s age or why they are upset, when an emotionally charged person is seeing red, is angry, or is overly obstinate, trying to reason with them is fruitless.

The smart approach to diffuse the situation is to take a break. Therefore, suggest it. Set a time to return. It can be as short as two minutes. It’s as simple as saying, “I need a break. Excuse me; I’ll be back in two minutes.”

After the time frame is over, what do you do to handle the situation? The key is to remember that the person who asks the questions control the conversation. Therefore, put forth questions that prompt responses.

Here are some examples of possible questions that can help with anger management:

  • “What do you suggest our next step to be?”
  • “What do you suggest we do so both of us feel right about it?”
  • “How can I help get what you want without feeling that I am doing myself a disservice?”

The reason that this approach is so effective is that these types of questions prompt reflection and thinking, which immediately dissipates the emotion and assists with anger management. This is because an emotion always follows cognition.

Anger Management Tip: To reduce your stress, just remember to manage the conversation rather than the conflict.

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