I often talk and write about how acknowledging a person’s behavior is more effective than offering praise. For example, saying, “You treated your bother with real consideration” is more empowering and has a greater positive emotional impact than saying, “I am so pleased by the way you treated your brother.”
Reinforcing and empowering self-understanding is much more useful for the person than praise, which shows no indication for judging progress.
HERE ARE TWENTY POTENTIAL PERILS OF PRAISE
- Praise prompts a dependence on others for approval.
- Praising youth can increase learned helplessness if young people rely on approval in lieu of their own motivation.
- Praise can generate disappointment for those who don’t receive it when others do. Experts call this “punished