One of the keys to effective parenting is to know the difference between implicit and explicit modeling and how you do both each day. The fact is that parents are the first teachers. Parents are always modeling how to behave.
Effective Parenting is All About Modeling
Modeling is accomplished two ways. The first way is EXPLICITLY. The second way is IMPLICITLY. Here is the difference:
Explicit modeling is directed by what you actually say and do, as in always saying “thank you” and urging the young person to do the same.
Implicit modeling is indirect and learned without intentions.
The following examples from the book Parenting Without Stress demonstrate the difference between explicit and implicit modeling.
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