Posts Tagged promote reflection

Reflect on Your Actions

rearview mirror Being able to reflect on your actions is key to reducing stress and prompting positive change in your life. The lack of reflection in your life can be likened to chewing—but not swallowing. The food is tasted, but unless digested, there is no nutritional value. That’s because no one really learns from an actual experience. It is the reflection about the experience that generates learning.

The human brain is a meaning-seeking organism, and because much of what we are exposed to happens so fast, we need time to process, to internalize its meaning. In addition, the brain continues to process information long after we are aware of it. This is the reason why many of our ideas seem to “pop … >>>


Four Questions that Prompt Reflection…and One to Avoid

Reflection fosters growth and responsibility. Therefore, ask evaluative questions—those that lead to reflection.

Here is a series of four such questions that lead to a change in behavior:

  1. “What do you want?”
  2. “Is what you are choosing to do helping you get what you want?”
  3. “If what you are choosing to do is not getting what you want, then what is your plan?”
  4. “What are your procedures to implement your plan—specifically, what will you do?” “What else?”

What question should you seldom if ever ask? Any question that starts with “why,” as in “Why did you hit your brother?” or “What did you lie about your homework being done?”

“Why” questions allow the person to give an excuse, be a … >>>