Parents and teachers have a responsibility to promote appropriate behavior. Promoting responsibility is more than a one time occurrence.
A rich woman walked up to the golf pro at an expensive resort and said, “I’d like for you to teach my friend here how to play golf.”
“Fine,” said the pro, “but how about you?”
“Oh, I learned yesterday!” she replied.
I share this rather humorous story to illustrate that learning to promote responsibility is something like learning to play golf. You can’t master it all in one day. But I can tell you that, like golf, prompting people to act responsibly by asking reflective questions is a skill you can learn. As with any skill, the more you practice it, the more efficient you become.