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Volume 12 Number 1

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

We are more effective utilizing calm and patient methods whether we are dealing with horses or people.
–Monty Roberts

On December 17, I had the pleasure of speaking with Monty Roberts for over an hour at his ranch, “Flag Is Up Farms,”
in Solvang, California.

Monty Roberts is the famous horse whisperer–an American original whose gentle training methods communicate in positive ways with horses. He can take a wild, high-strung horse who has never before been handled and persuade that horse to accept a bridle, saddle, and rider in thirty minutes.

The … >>>

Volume 11 Number 12

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

The words you choose help you win or lose.

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The Christmas and Hanukkah seasons fall in the same week this year. It’s wonderrful to light the lights (internally as well as externally), reflect, and be grateful.

May the season and New Year bring hope, joy, and happiness.

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“Carrots and sticks are for donkeys,” states Diane Ravitch, quoted in the December 15, 2011 edition of The New Republic.
For four decades, Ravitch has been the USA’s most prominent educational historian and advocate for educational reform.

She sees American history as “failed … >>>

Volume 11 Number 11

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

Pursuing perfection often impedes improvement.
–George Will
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This newsletter is a week later than usual due to my travels to Berlin and Munich in Germany and to Prague in the Czech Republic.

Whereas most cities in the world dedicate public displays to heroes, Berlin has hundreds of monuments and museums dedicated to victims of the Second World War.

There is no national school system in Germany. Each of the
16 states has it’s own system, and each differs as to its organizational structure.

For example, the school I visited in Berlin … >>>

Volume 11 Number 10

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

Conflict is a by-product of coercion.

–Dr. James Sutton (page 85) from his just-published book “The Changing Behavior Book: A Fresh approach to the Difficult Child” http://www.thechangingbehaviorbook.com/
(800.659.6628 with a special discount for the @23.95 book)

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NOTE: Due to international travels, the NOVEMBER issue of the newsletter will be distributed on the third Saturday, rather than on the usual second Saturday of the month.

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To assist teachers in having a more successful school year, the hardcover landmark book, “DISCIPLINE WITHOUT STRESS, PUNSIHMIMEST, OR REWAARDS – How Teachers and Parents Promote … >>>

Volume 11 Number 9

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

Since childhood on my mother’s knee, I have believed that honor, ethics, and right living are their own reward.
–Harry S Truman (TRUMAN by David McCullough p. 185)

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The 2nd edition REVISED of my DISCIPLINE WITHOUT STRESS hardcover book will go to press on September 15, so we are offering a 50% discount on the current stock–$20.00 vs.
$39.95

If you are interested in having the book at your fingertips, visit http://marvinmarshall.com/shop and scroll down to this book. Click on “Add to cart” and enter coupon code “2nd-Ed”
to get your … >>>

Volume 11 Number 8

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.”
–Henry Ford

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I will presenting 10 public seminars during the 2011-2012 academic school year with the Bureau of Educational Research.

If you live in or near one of the locations below, consider marking your calendar. As we get closer to each date, I will post information about registration.

January 30 Birmingham, Alabama
January 31 Atlanta, Georgia
February 1 Knoxville, Tennessee
February 2 St. … >>>

Volume 11 Number 7

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

“What you focus on is what you get back.”

–W. Mitchell, author of the book “It’s Not What Happens to You – It’s What You Do About It.”

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A website that ranks speakers was brought to my attention:
http://speakermix.com/marvin-marshall

The message on the site states: “Marvin Marshall does not have enough points to be ranked yet. You can help.”

If you have ever heard me present, please take a few minutes to look at the site and submit a rank.

Thank you.

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Mimi Donaldson, a fellow member of the National … >>>

Volume 11 Number 6

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

“We are not domed to repeat the mistakes of the past, but we will if we don’t change the systems and behaviors that have created and sustained them.”

–Alan Weiss, “Our Emperors Have No Clothes” (p. 232)

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book and who posts a five star review of it on Amazon.com by July 1, 2011 will receive as a gift … >>>

Volume 11 Number 5

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

People will forget what you said,
people will forget what you did,
but people will never forget how you made them feel.
–Maya Angelou

This understanding is critical for becoming more effective in influencing others.

NOTE: If you understand “choice-response-thinking”
(one of the foundations of the discipline and learning approach), you would immediately interpret Maya’s term “made” into “prompt”–as in “PROMPTED then to feel.”

What we see, hear, taste, smell, or touch PROMPTS our feelings; no one else “MAKES” or “CAUSES” how you feel.

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My seminars in Chicago on Wednesday (May … >>>

Volume 11 Number 4

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

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MONTHLY QUOTE:

Our thoughts help wire our brain. These thoughts determine how we perceive. And it is our perceptions that largely determines the quality of our lives.

Do you perceive a situation as a “problem” or as “challenge”?

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“Tips for Promoting Responsibility with Young People” is my newest inexpensive publication.

This $4.97 printable e-book contains 25 specific recommendations for promoting responsibility with young people from the ages two years on. Each page contains one specific technique that will show you how to have young people become more responsible while at the same time … >>>

Volume 11 Number 3

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

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MONTHLY QUOTE:

When I returned to the classroom after 24 years in counseling and administration, the lack of responsibility on the part of some students glared out at me. That’s when I asked myself, “How can I promote responsible behavior.”

The outcome was the Raise Responsibility System, now part of the teaching model at http://marvinmarshall.com/teaching_model.html

In developing the program, I decided to be PROACTIVE, rather than always reacting after an inappropriate behavior. That’s when I developed the Hierarchy of Social Development.

Every so often someone writes me about the problems the person has with … >>>

Volume 11 Number 2

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1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

“I think that love and patience are better disciplinarians than rods” –President Andrew Jackson speaking to his niece Emily about raising children – Quoted in “American Lion:
Andrew Jackson in the White House” by Jon Meacham, page 320.

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“101 Tips from Parenting Without Stress” is now available as a 24 page printable e-book for only $4.97. The publication highlights points from the multiple-award winning parenting book. See http://marvinmarshall.com/shop.

(NOTE: On occasion we have had problems with international orders. If you are located outside of North America, consider using PayPal. You can … >>>

Volume 11 Number 1

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

Happy New Year to all subscribers who have joined me–some for many years. I inaugurated this newsletter ten years ago and am grateful for the interest people have shown in it.

MONTHLY QUOTE:

Between stimulus and response, there is a space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
–Viktor Frankl

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My post on commonly used counterproductive approaches has been updated and is now available as a one-page pdf. See the upper right corner at:
http://marvinmarshall.com/counterproductive_approaches.htm

Regarding this same topic, Kerry
(http://disciplineanswers.com) … >>>

Volume 10 Number 12

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4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

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“We had taken the central premise of learning theory–that learning occurs only when a response produces a reward or a punishment–and proved it wrong.” . . . “Here were two callow graduate students telling the great B.F. Skinner, guru of behaviorism, and all his disciples that they were wrong in their most basic premise.”

–Martin Seligman, “LEARNED OPTIMISM: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life,” Vantage Books, 2006, page 23.

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“Another surprise involves the use of behavior management techniques. Although my own training in psychology (under the pioneering behavioral psychologist B.F. Skinner) … >>>

Volume 10 Number 11

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“My argument is that a motivational operating system built almost entirely on that REWARD and PUNISHMENT drive no longer works, and the reason for that goes back to the science. The science show that motivating people with what you might think of as if/then rewards (If you do this, then you get that) can be very effective for simple, straightforward tasks where you march down a set of rules and deliver a right answer. HOWEVER, THE SCIENCE IS VERY CLEAR THAT IF YOU’RE ASKING PEOPLE TO DO WORK THAT ISN’T ROUTINE, THAT REQUIRES CONCEPTUAL … >>>

Volume 10 Number 10

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6. Parenting
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PARENTS KNOW THAT ALL THESE DEBATES BOIL DOWN TO A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A CHILD AND A TEACHER.
–Davis Guggenheim, director of “Waiting for Superman,”
a film about the American educational system, Newsweek
Magazine, September 20, 2010, (p. 60.)

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Free education books have now been distributed to 19 of the United States from the charity at http://www.disciplinewithoutstress.org/

Two changes to the procedure are that (1) the principal needs to submit the proposal and (2) not all teachers need to commit to using the Discipline Without Stress Teaching Model. The Phi Delta Kappna article http://www.disciplinewithoutstress.org/Phi_Delta_Kappan.pdf… >>>

Volume 10 Number 9

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6. Parenting
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“Why School Reform Fails: STUDENT MOTIVATION IS THE PROBLEM (caps added).” –Robert Samuleson, Newsweek, September 13, 2010, page 21:

“(U.S.) Education Secretary Arne Duncan has announced $4 billion in Race to the Top grants whose proposals demonstrated, according to Duncan, ‘a bold commitment to education reform.'” Samuelson, one of the most respected American journalists continues: “Few subjects inspire more intellectual dishonesty and political puffery than school reform.” His article concludes:”What school reform promises is more disillusion.”

FINALLY, someone has articulated the major reason that so many students are not successful in school. They simply … >>>

Volume 10 Number 8

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4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
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Discipline is the bridge between goals and their accomplishments.
–Jim Rohn (1930-2010)

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At the recent National Speakers Association conference, I had the pleasure of meeting Edie Raether, creator of “I believe I can fly,” a children’s book, compact disk, and blanket for children 3 – 10. The package facilitates healthy life choices, develops problem solving skills, and instills hope and a positive belief system to increase self esteem.

The program is a character education program, an area I have been involved in since starting my approach with my first publication, “Fostering Social Responsibility”– … >>>