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Volume 10 Number 7

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Reviews and Testimonials

1. WELCOME

Failure is merely an opinion that a given act wasn’t done successfully. As a natural phenomenon, there is no such thing as failure. –Michael LeBoef

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The immense sculpture by Michael Pavlosvky in the foyer of the National Civil Rights Museum shows untold stories of thousands of people who lived and are still living civil rights movements.

The museum is adjacent to the Lorraine Motel in Memphis, Tennessee. The motel, the room, the balcony where Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated, and the building across the street from the motel where the assassin’s bullet … >>>

Volume 10 Number 6

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

“The educator must believe in the potential power of his pupil, and he must employ all his art in seeking to bring his pupil to experience this power.”
–Alfred Adler

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My new book, “PARENTING WITHOUT STRESS: How to Raise Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own” has been named the winner of three prestigious awards:
–The Eric Hoffer Book Award,
–The International Book Award, and
–The ForeWord Reviews Book Award.

Since Father’s Day is upon us, a special Father’s Day
25 per cent discount on the parenting book is being offered … >>>

Volume 10 Number 5

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

This edition is delivered one week earlier than the usual second Saturday of the month due to the uncertainty of Internet connections during my international travel next week.

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MONTHLY QUOTE:

Level D can accurately be described as
“freely chosen autonomous behaviour.”
–Kerry Weisner, British Columbia, Canada

For the many new subscribers, the levels of the Raise Responsibility System are explained at http://marvinmarshall.com/hierarchy.htm

For an understanding of how the levels are to be used, see http://marvinmarshall.com/pdf/hierarchy_significant_points.pdf

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If you visit my blog at
http://www.responsibility-learning.com/
and look in the upper right corner you will see … >>>

Volume 10 Number 4

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

People who get their own way most often are the people doing a lot more listening than talking.
–Dan Kennedy

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The Office of Non-Public Education (ONPE) of the U.S.
Department of Education, Office of Innovation and Improvement, offers support to private and religious schools.

This department offers programs for “equitable participation” authorized by the Elementary and Secondary Education Act (currently referred to as “No Child Left Behind”). Title II, Part A of the act offers financial assistant for “preparing, training, and recruiting high quality teachers.” Supported activities include professional development for … >>>

Volume 10 Number 3

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE (of LAST month):

Motivation for learning is voluntary.
It must be invited.
It cannot be demanded, forced, or coerced.

Penny Smith put a spin on it for THIS month:

Motivation for living positively is voluntary.
It must be invited.
It cannot be demanded, forced, or coerced.

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The public charity for schools in the USA has simplified the application procedure. See:
http://www.disciplinewithoutstress.org/

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The latest about the newly published parenting book from the Midwest Review of Books:

“Children become the dominating figures of one’s life when they enter the picture. This … >>>

Volume 10 Number 2

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

Motivation for learning is voluntary.
It must be invited.
It cannot be demanded, forced, or coerced.

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My blog is now fully operational. Since the article are aimed at promoting responsibility and learning, the blog carries the same name as this monthly newsletter. If you would like to have the short posts delivered to your mailbox, submit your e-mail address and follow the directions under “GET NOTIFIED ABOUT NEW ARTICLES” at http://www.Responsibility-Learning.com.

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The book, “Parenting Without Stress,” is now listed on Amazon.com. Testimonials on this site are very important.

Please … >>>

Volume 10 Number 1

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome
2. Promoting Responsibility
3. Increasing Effectiveness
4. Improving Relationships
5. Promoting Learning
6. Parenting
7. Discipline without Stress
8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

Children get only one chance at childhood.

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January is the month when many people make predictions. However, as Yogi Berra said, “It’s tough to make predictions, especially about the future.”

On the other hand, January is also the traditional month for renewal, growth, and for making resolutions. A New Year’s resolution is an attempt to take control over one’s life.

My own resolution for 2010 is to have my self-talk start with, “I am choosing to. . . .”

2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

A recent issue of the journal “Circulation” … >>>

Volume 9 Number 12

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Parenting

7. Discipline without Stress

8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

Some may conclude that I am against all punishments. This is
a wrong assumption. I have no problem with ADULTS using
punishments for justice, fairness, or safety.

With young people, however, the problem is not the
punishment or the consequence for inappropriate behavior
(levels A and B); rather, it is the question of WHO decides
and imposes the punishment or the consequence–
THE ADULT OR THE YOUNGSTER HER/HIMSELF.
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You may find the following story disturbing enough to share
it with others:… >>>

Volume 9 Number 11

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Parenting

7. Discipline without Stress

8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

I know you believe you understood what you think I said,
but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not
what I meant.
–from a desk plaque of Chris Gilissen when we were both
assistant principals at Westminster High School,

2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

QUESTION:

Can you explain the difference between praise and acknowledgment?

RESPONSE:

It’s important to be aware of the difference between praise
and acknowledgment because so often we praise when we would
really rather create the … >>>

Volume 9 Number 10

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Parenting

7. Discipline without Stress

8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

If you change the way you look at things, the things you
look at change.

–Wayne Dyer

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One of my favorite little books is Darrell Huff’s “How
to
Lie with Statistics.”

Here are a few thoughts to keep in mind when reading about
statistical measurements, which the media and many educators
are endeared to and that are mainly meaningless.

1) Schools and students are measured by numbers of right
answers scored on tests. However, outside of school, success
in life is … >>>

Volume 9 Number 9

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Parenting

7. Discipline without Stress

8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

He, who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek
happiness by changing anything but his own disposition,
will waste his life in fruitless efforts and multiply the
grief which he purposes to move.

–Samuel Johnson (the literary giant of the 18th century)
from an exhibit at the Huntington Library, San Marino,
California

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The book, “PARENTING WITHOUT STRESS: How to Raise
Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own,” is now
taking pre-publication orders.

Following are two of … >>>

Volume 9 Number 8

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Parenting

7. Discipline without Stress

8. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

Grant me the serenity

to accept the people I cannot change,

the courage

to change the person I can, and

the wisdom

to know that I am that person.

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The book, “PARENTING WITHOUT STRESS: How to Raise

Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own,” is at

the editor. It will be published later this year.

The most common response obtained from people who have read

the 150-page draft say, “Why didn’t I know about the

approaches in this book … >>>

Volume 9 Number 7

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

Optimism (a cousin of positivity) is the basis of

persistence. And persistence is the basis of achievement.

2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

The U.S. Army Academy at West Point, New York
had a larger

than expected drop-out rate. Admissions were largely based

on SAT scores and on physical strength. The academy added an

assessment for optimism. When these results were added to

the entrance requirements, the military academy’s drop-out

rate was reduced.

Positivity in self-talk leads to persistence.

3. INCREASING EFFECTIVENESS

The Golden Question:

If I … >>>

Volume 9 Number 6

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

Out of our desire to control comes punishment. Out of our

desire to raise responsible citizens comes teaching and

guiding.

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For teachers retiring from the profession, I share with you

a poem written by a dear friend:

A TEACHER’S FAREWELL

It seems as though t’was yesterday

I started to discern

The young and bright, expectant faces

So eager then to learn.

I was young and quite proficient.

I thought I could instill

A world of knowledge in their heads

Through ineffectual drill.

It … >>>

Volume 9 Number 5 

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

“A problem is a problem only when you label it a problem.”

–William Glasser, M.D.

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REWARD or COMPENSATION?

I was asked the following:

What is a good response to people who argue that extrinsic

rewards are okay because it’s like adults getting a

paycheck? When people say this, I cringe. I know it’s not

the same, but I don’t know how to argue intelligently with

them.

My response:

Employment is a social contract. People provide service for

compensation. The only thing a fee … >>>

Volume 9 Number 4

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7.Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

If you are not at Level D motivation every so often,
you may find yourself like a member of a dogsled team.
If you are not the lead dog, the scenery never changes.

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“DISCIPLINE WITHOUT STRESS – How to Handle Every Discipline
Problem” will hold a teleconference on May 13 sponsored by
Otter Creek Institute. Information and subscription at
various time zones are available at:
http://www.oci-sems.com/eoci/email/50470T.htm?type=ebrochure&ctname=50470T&woyc=20&woys=14&year=2009&location=NTL&division=OCI

2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

Here are three INTEGRITY-building
behaviors:
1) keep your promises,
2) talk and walk your values, … >>>

Volume 9 Number 3

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

“Life is the sum of all your choices.”
–Albert Camus, Nobel Laureate

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In a classic study, scientists put two rats in a cage, each
of them locked in a running wheel. The first rat could
exercise whenever he liked. The second was yoked to the
first and forced to run when his counterpart did.
Exercise usually reduces stress and encourages neuron
growth, and indeed, the first rat’s brain bloomed with new
cells. The second rat, however, lost brain cells. He was
doing something … >>>

Volume 9 Number 2

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7. Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

“This means trust rather than fear,
encouragement rather than force,
cooperation rather than competition,
challenge rather than threat,
recognition rather than praise,
self-discipline rather than punishment, and
satisfaction rather than reward.”
(THESE ARE ALL INGREDIENTS OF THE DWS TEACHING MODEL
http://marvinmarshall.com/teaching_model.html)
–From “The Most Meaningful, Persuasive Book I Have Ever
Read: ‘Perceiving Behaving Becoming’ ASCD 1962 Yearbook,
pages 202-203″ Updated 2001 ASCD.
–Thanks to Bill Page http://www.teacherteacher.com

2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

A teacher wrote: “I’m impressed with
separating the behavior
from the kid. I’ve just … >>>