Live Without Stress: How to Enjoy the Journey opens with a quotation: “If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, tension, and stress. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.” —George Burns, American entertainer, 1896-1996
Living without stress was the key to Masazo Nonaka’s (1905 – 2019) long life—recognized by the Guinness World Records as the world’s oldest man in April 2018 when he was 112 years old. He passed on at 113 in on January 20, 2019 in Hokkaido, Japan.
His granddaughter, Yuko, told the Kyodo News that his long life was due to his trying to “live without stress.”
If you look underneath depression you will find anger. Look under anger, and you will discover sadness. Analyze sadness and you will find the root of all that is masquerading for depression—fear!
It is impossible to think clearly when you are flooded with fear, anxiety, or negative thinking. The more you are anxious or negative, the more such thinking will be reinforced. Do it often enough and it can become a habit. So, when anxiety, fear, or negativity arouses you, immediately redirect your thinking by getting involved with some other thought or engage in a new activity. This is the most effective and efficient approach. The reason is that emotion always follows cognition.
Society has been changed by a number of factors—not the least of which is technology. Unfortunately, however, relationships have not improved in far too many situations using technology. People still continue to use ineffective approaches to influence others.
Communicating in positive terms to yourself and to others triggers enthusiasm, capability, and self-confidence.
Allow me to share some additional advantages when your self-talk and communications to others are in positive—rather than in negative—terms. I also want to emphasize that positivity applies especially to teachers who are engaged in classroom management and classroom discipline.
Do you have simple stress management strategies? In case you don’t, here are 5 ways to reduce and manage stress. These 5 easy natural stress relief tips are top tips for stress management that show how to de-stress and how to deal with stress immediately.
The life cycle of a butterfly not only fascinates but the life cycle of a butterfly in real life can serve as an analogy to the Levels of Development—sometimes referred to as the Marvin Marshall Hierarchy. Once young people understand the basics of building a hierarchy, then their physical growth can be compared to a butterfly life cycle. With this understanding, they become empowered to act more responsibly and reduce their stress and the stress of others with whom young people interact.
The four stages of the life cycle of a butterfly can be related to the four physical states of human development and the Hierarchy of Social Development.
Want to change a young person’s attitude and behavior? Here is an example of how to have a student change both attitude and behavior.
What I will be describing is not a mock school counseling session but an actual individual counseling session when I took the role of a school counselor in a counseling session to demonstrate essential counseling skills. The school counselor observed how I implemented counseling theories and counseling techniques in practice with a middle school girl who was the school’s most challenging student.
Would you believe that no school rules are better than classroom rules? When you understand the difference between classroom rules & procedures you will understand why my 5 simple classroom rules are so effective. You will also understand the reason that my basic school rules are essentially school rules in real life.
Since the rules of the classroom are to promote responsibility, why not use a more effective term than classroom rules—such as responsibility.
Do you find yourself reacting negatively rather than positively? Is your natural inclination to say, “NO” rather than “Yes?” Using negatives creates stress. If you understand how the brain works, this is easy to remember. The brain cannot picture a negative image.
Do you lack passion at your place of work? Do you put forth your maximum effort at your job?
There is a natural human tendency to go to the negative rather than to the positive. Office negativity is not helpful. But there is a way to keep negativity away. For example, if you receive a note that your supervisor wants to see you before you leave for the day, the natural inclination is to assume that the meeting will have a negative connotation. There is no basis for this. It is a faulty assumption; it’s guesswork.
What ranks higher than the fear of snakes? Answer: How to get over the fear of public speaking in front of groups!
My father was very articulate. People truly liked to have him engage in conversations because his ideas were so interesting. Yet, he had a dreaded fear of public speaking in front of groups. He had no difficulty in asking questions and stating his opinion even in large groups, but presenting ideas in front of a group prompted great stress in him.