Tip: Work consists of being obliged to do something—while play consists of whatever a person is not obliged to do.
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The life cycle of a butterfly not only fascinates but the life cycle of a butterfly in real life can serve as an analogy to the Hierarchy of Social of Development—sometimes referred to as the Marvin Marshall Hierarchy. Once young people understand the basics of building a hierarchy, then their physical growth can be compared to a butterfly life cycle. With this understanding, they become empowered to act more responsibly and reduce their stress and the stress of others with whom young people interact.
The four stages of the life cycle of a butterfly can be related to the four physical states of human development and the Hierarchy of Social Development.
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Want to change a young person’s attitude and behavior? Here is an example of how to have a student change both attitude and behavior.
What I will be describing is not a mock school counseling session but an actual individual counseling session when I took the role of a school counselor in a counseling session to demonstrate essential counseling skills. The school counselor observed how I implemented counseling theories and counseling techniques in practice with a middle school girl who was the school’s most challenging student.
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Are you aware of the Hierarchy of Social Development? Share a poem for younger people to learn values necessary in a democratic society.
You may ask, what is a hierarchy? A hierarchy is a system of ranking. For example, you may be familiar with Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. This is a natural hierarchy of human well-being.
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Are you aware of the advantages and disadvantages of conformity and the importance of obedience?
Obedience and stress are perhaps best illustrated in the Stanley Milgram experiment of understanding submission and obedience to authority.
Conformity and obedience are natural and necessary in any society. This is how cultures perpetuate their values and traditions. However, obedience can promote stress on the part of all concerned.
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Would you believe that no school rules are better than classroom rules? When you understand the difference between classroom rules & procedures you will understand why my 5 simple classroom rules are so effective. You will also understand the reason that my basic school rules are essentially school rules in real life.
Since the rules of the classroom are to promote responsibility, why not use a more effective term than classroom rules—such as responsibility.
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Do you find yourself reacting negatively rather than positively?
Is your natural inclination to say, “NO” rather than “Yes?” Using negatives creates stress.
If you understand how the brain works, this is easy to remember. The brain cannot picture a negative image.
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Know how to lose friends and alienate people?
Have you ever had the experience of wanting to buy something, but the salesperson alienated you, or you were turned off so much that you did not buy from that person—that you felt estranged!
Why lose friends and alienate people? Understanding how NOT to alienate or have someone not turned off is significant in reducing stress.
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Do you lack passion at your place of work?
Do you put forth your maximum effort at your job?
There is a natural human tendency to go to the negative rather than to the positive. Office negativity is not helpful. But there is a way to keep negativity away. For example, if you receive a note that your supervisor wants to see you before you leave for the day, the natural inclination is to assume that the meeting will have a negative connotation. There is no basis for this. It is a faulty assumption; it’s guesswork.
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What ranks higher than the fear of snakes? Answer: How to get over the fear of public speaking in front of groups!
My father was very articulate. People truly liked to have him engage in conversations because his ideas were so interesting. Yet, he had a dreaded fear of public speaking in front of groups. He had no difficulty in asking questions and stating his opinion even in large groups, but presenting ideas in front of a group prompted great stress in him.
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Dealing with adversity is major challenge for many. However, adversity can be the launching pad to success.
How you personally deal with adversity is the difference.
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When someone has a great idea, how is it conveyed in a picture or cartoon? A light bulb appears over the person’s head! The image illustrates diffusion animation. That image of the lightbulb is an example of diffusion of light. And this illustration can serve to reduce stress.
You can reduce your stress through diffusion by understanding the difference between a light bulb and a laser beam.
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Why are so many people today dealing with anxiety more than ever before? The answer may surprise you, and this tip on how to relieve anxiety might just help.
Stress and anxiety can affect people of all ages—whether a person is a student under stress or a person in retirement. The key to dealing with anxiety and stress is through effort, which leads to anxiety relief and reducing stress levels.
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What are the benefits of smiling? Why is it good to smile? Smiling reduces stress. Scientists know that negative emotions can cause a cascade of biological reasons that harm the body. These include chronic stress that increases inflammation, and inflammation has been linked to a host of health problems.
So give your life a smile. It is not a stretch to think that smiling is a cousin of happiness also prompts positive changes in the body.
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Learning English can prompt confusion and stress, but spoken English is easier than written English.
Ever hear the spelling rule “I” before “E”— except after “C”? English is “weird” and not a perfect “science.” Notice that the words “weird” and “science” do not follow this rule.
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William James, the father of American psychology, phrased it this way, “ The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
The opening paragraph of my book, Discipline Without Stress, deals with perceptions of mindsets. It sets the stage for the entire book. My purpose is to have people be aware of how they phrase and verbalize their own thoughts because they have a significant affect on their perceptions and their beliefs.
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The opening paragraph of my book, Discipline Without Stress, deals with perceptions of mindsets. It sets the stage for the entire book. My purpose is to have people be aware of how they phrase and verbalize their own thoughts because they have a significant affect on their perceptions and their beliefs.
You can see how perceptions and what you visualize affect your stress levels by the following little experiment.
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If you are going to have a DMV license renewed or will help someone apply for a new drivers license in the near future, this tip can save much stress and frustration.
Assumptions are the source of more problems, difficulties, and needless stress than any other cause. Renewing my license experience is but one simple example. Hopefully, my experience can save you much frustration and stress
