The following is one of my favorite stories in my parenting book in the chapter describing the practice of positivity.
Andrew Carnegie, the first great industrialist in America, at one point had 43 millionaires working for him. A reporter asked him how he hired all of those millionaires. His answer was that none of them were millionaires when he hired them.
The reporter inquired, “Then what did you do to develop them so they became millionaires?”
Carnegie responded that you develop people the same way you mine gold.
He said, “You go into a gold mine and you expect to remove tons of dirt to find an ounce of gold. But you don’t go into the mine looking for the dirt; you go in there looking for the gold.”