Posts Tagged Perceptions and Feelings

Hurt Feelings and How to Mend Them

Has someone ever said something to you that left you with hurt feelings? Or have you caused someone else to experience this emotion? We all have been on both the giving and receiving end with this one. Someone asks you for your honest opinion, you give it to them in a kind way, and the person walks away with hurt feelings. As my mother-in-law used to always say, “Be careful of asking for someone’s opinion. The person may give it to you.”

Honesty is always the best policy. But if someone asks you for your opinion and if the person perceives that your comments are derogatory, there is a problem. The good news is that you can alleviate any negative … >>>


Feeling Stressed? Change Your Perception

How many times have you blamed an event or person for your negative reaction? If you’re like most people, it has happened often. Everything from traffic jams, to comments made by others, to sudden changes of plans can make people upset. But what if I told you that these events, no matter how bad you think they are, are not the cause of your stress?

Epictetus (A.D. 55-135) wrote: “It is not the event itself that is the problem; it is the perception of that event.” In other words, the things that happen to us aren’t problems; rather, it is our reaction to the events that determine whether we feel stress or not. This bit of information has made one … >>>


Discipline Without Stress Newsletter – August 2013

Volume 13 Number 8


  1. Welcome
  2. Promoting Responsibility
  3. Increasing Effectiveness
  4. Improving Relationships
  5. Promoting Learning
  6. Parenting
  7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
  8. Reviews and Testimonials




Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.–
Thomas Alva Edison


Last week I received a call from a teacher who has been using Discipline Without Stress (DWS) for two years in Jacksonville, Florida. She learned about the system from C.M. Charles’ book, “Building Classroom Discipline.”

Nancy was asked to present the system at a conference. The principal asked her because Nancy had not sent any students to the office on a discipline referral since she started using the system.

Nancy called me and asked if … >>>