When you’re communicating with a youngster, especially when in a discipline situation, how you ask reflective questions as well as your tone of voice are important. But did you know that your kinesics are equally vital?
What is kinesics and how does it affect discipline and communication? Basically, kinesics is non-verbal body language. It’s all the gestures, facial expressions, movements, and posture you use while you communicate.
If you are checking for understanding with a frowning face, arms folded, body stiff, and eyes glaring while asking, “What level is that?” you are sending a very clear coercive message. However, if you ask the same question with a slight smile, arm extended with the palm up, body slightly forward, and eyes wide open, your resulting message is completely different.
When you communicate with others, whether in casual conversation or in a discipline situation, be aware of the non-verbal message you’re sending. Positive kinesics will make every interaction much more positive.