In order to significantly improve relationships, focus on UNDERSTANDING the other person, rather than attempting to influence that person. You will find that agreement is often achieved more quickly with this approach.
Rather than assuming you know the reasoning behind another person’s viewpoint, ask for an explanation. Air at clarification—rather than influencing. Using this process, the person articulates the reasoning, and you many find that the person’s reasoning is well-worth considering. You may receive an insight about the other person which will assist you in your discussions and understanding of that person.
Having the other person feel and believe that his/her reasoning is recognized—not necessarily agreed with—can have a dramatic influence on changing opinion.s
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