Discipline Without Stress Newsletter – March 2008

Volume 8 Number 3 

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome

2. Promoting Responsibility

3. Increasing Effectiveness

4. Improving Relationships

5. Promoting Learning

6. Discipline without Stress

7.Testimonials and Research

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY RESPONSIBILITY AND LEARNING QUOTE:

The February 25, 2008 cover article of U.S.A.’s TIME

MAGAZINE was entitled, “How to Make Better Teachers.”

My thoughts after reading the article:

Great teachers understand that they are in the relationship

business. Many students–especially those in low

socio-economic areas–put forth little effort if they have

negative feelings about their teachers. Superior teachers

establish good relationships AND have high expectations.

These teachers communicate in positive ways, such as letting

their students know what the teacher wants them to do,

rather than by telling students what NOT to do. Great

teachers inspire rather than coerce. They aim at promoting

responsibility rather than obedience because they know that

OBEDIENCE DOES NOT CREATE DESIRE.

Great teachers identify the reason that a lesson is being

taught and then share it with their students. These teachers

inspire their students through curiosity, challenge, and

relevancy.

Great teachers are inspired teachers. Offering more pay does

not prompt them to work HARDER any more than a president

would work HARDER for more pay. They aim to increase their

EFFECTIVENESS, which may or may not result in harder work.

What will improve teaching are improved skills that prompt

students to WANT to behave responsibly and WANT to put forth

effort in their learning.

Great teachers have an open mindset. They REFLECT so that if

a lesson needs improvement they look to themselves to

change BEFORE they expect their students to change.

Unfortunately, today’s educational establishment still has a

20th century mindset that focuses on EXTERNAL APPROACHES to

increase motivation. An example of the fallacy of this

approach is the defunct self-esteem movement that used

external approaches such as stickers and praise in attempts

to make people happy and feel good about themselves. What

was overlooked was the simple universal truth that people

develop positive self-talk and self-esteem through the

successes of THEIR OWN EFFORTS.

EDUCATION IS ABOUT MOTIVATION. GREAT TEACHERS KNOW THIS.

———

THE HIERARCHY site has been updated. IT DESERVES YOUR

ATTENTION if you are using the Raise Responsibility System:

http://marvinmarshall.com/hierarchy.htm

———

I have started a nonprofit public charitable organization

to assist schools in low economic areas.

The website is

http://www.DisciplineWithoutStress.org.

If you know of such a school, suggest their visiting

the above website for the possibility of receiving

free
books,
the free
In-House Staff
Development package,

and possibly a free in-service by the
developer.

2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

The following article appears in

http://teachers.net/gazette/FEB08/marshall/

PROMOTING DISCIPLINE & LEARNING

by Dr. Marvin Marshall

TO PROMOTE RESPONSIBILITY, ELICIT RATHER THAN IMPOSE.

Problems with students so often arise from imposing,

RATHER THAN FROM ELICITING.

When teachers IMPOSE “logical” and/or “natural” consequences

ON students, they are using their authority to impose a form

of punishment. It matters not if the adult’s intention is to

teach a lesson. IMPOSED punishments increase the likelihood

that the student will FEEL punished by the adult. Anything

that is done TO another person prompts negative feelings of

reluctance, resistance, resentment, and sometimes even

rebellion and retaliation.

In addition, when authority is used to impose, it deprives

the student of an opportunity to become more responsible.

Working WITH the student, rather than doing things TO the

student, is so much more effective. This approach avoids the

problems typically associated with IMPOSING something

because (a) students do not feel like victims when they

design their own consequence and (b) they are guided to

focus on learning from the experience. By ELICITING, rather

than by IMPOSING a consequence, the young person owns it.

PEOPLE DO NOT ARGUE WITH THEIR OWN DECISIONS.

By IMPOSING a logical or natural consequence, the

responsibility for thinking about the nature of the

consequence falls to the adult, rather than upon the

student. The STUDENT (as opposed to the teacher) should be

the one required to do the thinking.

Here is an example to help understand the difference between

something imposed and something elicited. A young student

has scribbled on a wall or an older student has vandalized a

wall with graffiti.

In a school where consequences are imposed, the adult would

think about the situation and arrive at a consequence that

seems fair and meaningfully related to the misbehavior. In

this situation, the adult would decide that as an

appropriate consequence the student should be required to

clean up the mess on the wall. The adult would impose the

consequence, thereby making it feel like punishment.

However, in a school using a COLLABORATIVE APPROACH of

working WITH the student, the situation would be handled

differently. The teacher would expect the student to do the

thinking, thus inducing the student to take responsibility.

Instead of imposing a consequence on the student, the

teacher would ELICIT an appropriate consequence from the

student.

The student would be asked, “What do you think should happen

now that youÕve marked on the wall making the school less

attractive to everyone else?”

Because the STUDENT WOULD BE INDUCED TO THINK, you can

imagine the student might say something like, “I should

clean the wall.” The teacher would agree that this would be

a suitable consequence. Interestingly, in either case, the

consequence is exactly the same; the person who committed

the act cleans the wall.

You may ask, “What’s the big deal? If in both scenarios the

situation ends up so that the young person cleans up the

mess made on the wall, what does it matter who thought of

the idea?” THIS IS THE CRITICAL DIFFERENCE. Learning,

growth, and long-term change come as a result of reflecting

about one’s actions and about the outcomes that may result

from them. BY BEING PROMPTED TO THINK ABOUT AND DETERMINE

THE CONSEQUENCE, the student not only takes ownership and

responsibility but also is more likely to make more

responsible choices in the future.

In summary, the most effective way to promote

responsibility–be it regarding inappropriate behavior,

reducing apathy toward learning, or even with home

assignments–is to ELICIT a consequence (or a procedure to

help the student), rather than to IMPOSE one.

3. INCREASING EFFECTIVENESS

If there is one area in our lives that many people struggle

with, it is that of taking a risk. The reason is that risk

creates fear, and fear prompts inaction.

Here is a simple and practical system to deal with risks.

Look at any situation where a decision needs to be made. It

makes no difference what the decision is–be it taking a

vacation, purchasing something, or some action.

Ask yourself three questions:

1. As a result of taking this action, what is the best thing

that can happen?

Then flip the coin:

2. As a result of taking this action, what is the worst

thing that can happen?

Then use some moderation by asking,

3. What is the most likely thing that will happen?

In the great majority of times, the worst thing doesn’t

happen. Since the best thing may not happen, negotiate

somewhere down the middle.

Then reflect: If the most likely thing to happen can get you

closer to what you want, and if you are willing to deal with

the worst thing that can happen for a chance of getting the

best thing that can happen, go for it.

But if you cannot deal with the worst thing that can happen,

it doesn’t matter what is the best thing that can happen.

Close the issue and move on.

4. IMPROVING RELATIONSHIPS

If you don’t treat
yourself well,

why would you expect others to treat you well?

5. PROMOTING LEARNING

The following two posts are from the mailring/forum

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DisciplineWithoutStress/

You are absolutely right about developing procedures for

success in the classroom. I have been using Dr. Marshall’s

Hierarchy for several years and will never teach without it.

However, there are ways to streamline the classroom’s use of

it by stressing procedures.

Harry Wong stresses teaching procedures and PRACTICING them.

He says that if there is a procedure for doing something,

and not all children are doing it, practice it. He stresses

that procedures are different from rules. Procedures have no

rewards or punishments. You simply practice until everyone

understands them. He says that when a student asks about

something, or isn’t doing something for which you have a

procedure, you simply ask, “What is our procedure?” You put

the responsibility back on the student to think of the

procedure or to practice it after a reminder.

When I implemented that concept with Dr. Marshall’s A, B, C,

D in my classroom, it’s amazing how much simpler my life

became.

Our classroom procedures have been thoroughly discussed,

planned with their input, and posted on the wall on a

student-made chart. We agree on our procedures, so “What is

our procedure?” is a question I rarely have to ask anymore.

When the class doesn’t do something by the procedure, we

simply stop…and practice. The next time is much better.

We have procedures for exchanging bad pencils for good ones,

for dining hall, for traveling, for turning in papers, for

EVERYTHING! I highly recommend Harry Wong’s Book about the

first days of school. You’ll even find Dr. Marshall’s

Hierarchy in there!

———

Part I of the DISCIPLINE WITHOUT STRESS TEACHING MODEL is

critical to successful implementation of the whole approach.

http://marvinmarshall.com/in-housedetails.html

Without taking care of classroom management (developing,

teaching and practicing procedures,) it’s very difficult to

have success in helping kids to become self-disciplined.

Once the classroom is carefully structured with routines,

THEN kids have a good shot at learning to control their own

behaviour and the teacher is in a better position to INSPIRE

THEM TO BE SELF-MOTIVATED.

Like you, I also found that Harry Wong’s book was an

excellent resource and really helped me understand classroom

management better.

———

Harry and Rosemary Wong write a monthly column on procedures

at http://teachers.net/wong/

6. Discipline without Stress

Although procedures are the foundational step to efficient

instruction and reducing discipine problems, sometimes we

forget to be creative in their establishment.

In some cases, the teacher might create a new CLASSROOM

PROCEDURE to proactively deal with misbehavior from certain

students. In other words, rather than reacting to the same

type of misbehavior day after day, the teacher might

RESTRUCTURE THE ENVIRONMENT MORE CAREFULLY IN A WAY THAT

WOULD ALLOW IMMATURE STUDENTS TO BE MORE SUCCESSFUL.

For example, this year in our primary classroom,

we have a number of students who find it difficult to

maintain appropriate behaviour in the cramped quarters of

the cloakroom at dismissal time. To deal with this, we

simply CHANGED OUR PROCEDURES for the cloakroom. Rather than

having the whole class go into the cloakroom at the same

time (which has always worked in previous years,) my partner

divided the students into three groups (with the three most

immature students each in a separate group.) Now, each group

has a turn in the cloakroom while the other students sit at

their desks and chat with the teacher. As each group

finishes up in the cloakroom, they return to their desks and

a different group of children go and get their belongings.

OUR PROBLEM WAS SOLVED–NOT BY TRYING TO CHANGE THE

CHILDREN–BUT BY CHANGING THE ROUTINE

7. Testimonials/Research

Another teacher has been using this system. I have observed

this classroom from the beginning of the year and was

greatly impressed by the changed behavior in the students.

She told me about your system, so I promptly got the book.

Karen Marie

Ridgecrest, California, USA.

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