Posts Tagged Saying No

What to Do Instead of Saying NO

On June 14, 2018   /   Relationships  
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Saying NO to others is common. Have you ever had to say “no” to a person? Of course you have. We all have.

“No” is one of the shortest words in the English language. However, its constant use can prompt some of the biggest challenges in family and in other relationships.

“No” is a negative word. How did you feel that last time someone said “no” to you? Chances are you felt sad, deflated, or maybe even angry. When you ask for something and hear “no,” it’s common to feel negativity.

The negative response not only may prompt stress for the receiver of the comment, but it can also prompt negative feelings and some stress for the person giving the … >>>

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How To Avoid Saying NO

On June 12, 2016   /   Reduce Stress, Stress Management, Weekly Tips  
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Ever say “NO!” to a person?

It seems rather obvious that the response to this question prompts negative feelings. If you ask for something and you receive a negative response, you will not be very pleased.

The negative response not only may prompt stress for the receiver of the comment, but it can also prompt negative feelings and some stress for the person giving the response. What parent or manager derives pleasure in saying “NO!” to someone?

Someone who was about to adopt a child asked me how to avoid the common response by so many parents of NOT continually saying, ‘No!’” (“No, you cannot do that!” “No, you cannot have that!”)

My response: Say “Not yet.”

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Discipline Without Stress Newsletter – April 2016

On April 6, 2016   /   Discipline News, Newsletters  

PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY & LEARNING
Volume 16 Number 4 April 2016 
Newsletter #177 Archived

IN THIS ISSUE:

  1. Welcome
  2. Promoting Responsibility
  3. Increasing Effectiveness
  4. Improving Relationships
  5. Promoting Learning
  6. Parenting
  7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
  8. Reviews and Testimonials 

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE:

“When the only tool you have is a hammer, it is tempting to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
—Abraham Maslow

Where there is no participation by the one being disciplined, ownership will be lacking. When there is no ownership, there will be no lasting change.
—Marvin Marshall

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Discipline Without Stress Newsletter – APRIL 2015

On April 7, 2015   /   Discipline News, Newsletters  

 Volume 15 Number 4

IN THIS ISSUE:

  1. Welcome
  2. Promoting Responsibility
  3. Increasing Effectiveness
  4. Improving Relationships
  5. Promoting Learning
  6. Parenting
  7. Discipline without Stress (DWS)
  8. Reviews and Testimonials  

1. WELCOME

MONTHLY QUOTE: 

Questions unite; answers divide.

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:  

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Say “No” Positively

On February 26, 2015   /   Relationships  

In my books, speeches, and professional work, I always stress the importance of positivity. But sometimes you simply have to tell people “No,” even though it’s not a positive word. So how can you say “No” without actually saying “No”? Here’s a simple four-step process:

1. Acknowledge the importance of the request.
“I understand why that’s important to you.”

2. Inform the person that you have a problem with it.
“But I have a problem with it.”

3. Describe the problem as you see it.
“Your doing that would mean it would put a burden on everyone else.”

4. Elicit from the person something else.
“Let’s think of something that would be fair to everyone.”

By doing this, you’re saying … >>>

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“Not” Versus “No”

On September 23, 2014   /   Effectiveness, Parenting  

A parent contacted me, inquiring how she could tell her child “no” but still remain positive. As she explained, “I find that I am telling my youngster ‘no’ so often that it disturbs me. I want to be positive, but ‘no’ sounds so negative. What should I do?”

I proceeded to tell her a short story: A few years ago my wife and I were to attend a formal event dedicated to the memory of the gifted Scottish poet and song writer Robbie Burns, who gave us such world classics as “Auld Lange Syne” and “My Love Is Like A Red, Red Rose.”

I planned to wear formal Scottish attire—a “Montrose” jacket and kilt. My wife inquired if she should … >>>

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