What do you want in life? It’s a difficult question, for sure, and one that can easily cause stress when you’re not sure of the answer.
Not getting what you want in life is frustrating. Yet it occurs often. One of the reasons we do not get what we want is that sometimes we are a lot clearer about what we don’t want than about what we do want.
For example, have you ever had a conversation like the following:
Friend 1: Where do you want to go dinner tonight?
Friend 2: Well, not that Italian place. We ate there a few nights ago.
Friend 1: Okay, how about the Mexican place?
Friend 2: No, I don’t want Mexican tonight.
Friend 1: Well, then, what are you in the mood for?
Friend 2: I don’t know. I just know I don’t want Italian or Mexican.
Friend 1: Well I don’t know either.
Friend 2: I guess we’ll just do the Italian place again then.
In many situations, when asked what they want, people often respond with what they don’t want, like the friend in the example above. When what they don’t want is the clearest thing in their minds, then that is what they are most likely to get. At that point, they feel stressed and maybe even depressed, and they’re not sure how to break free.
The solution is quite simple, though: Think about what you want, not what you don’t want. As soon as you get clear and make a claim for what you DO want, the greater the chances are of your getting it. Clarity is critical, and positivity is always more successful than negativity.
Take some time today to think about the things you want in your life, both professionally and personally. Then, focus on those things only. Your stress level is sure to decrease.
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