The life cycle of a butterfly not only fascinates but the life cycle of a butterfly in real life can serve as an analogy to the Levels of Development—sometimes referred to as the Marvin Marshall Hierarchy. Once young people understand the basics of building a hierarchy, then their physical growth can be compared to a butterfly life cycle. With this understanding, they become empowered to act more responsibly and reduce their stress and the stress of others with whom young people interact. The four stages of the life cycle of a butterfly can be related to the four physical states of human development and the Hierarchy of Social Development. Watch Now
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You can and should unlock the power of your subconscious mind, because your subconscious mind is a powerful thing. Henry Ford, the American captain of industry, business magnate, and founder of the Ford Motor Company, once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” What he meant was, whether you expect to succeed or expect to fail, your expectations become self-fulfilling prophecies. How is this possible? Is the human mind really that powerful? When you expect failure, you communicate your expectations to your subconscious mind. Your brain accepts the notion and prompts your mindset as if you will fail. You actually program yourself in a negative way to do the things that will lead
READ MORE >>> →Many people use a Sit Stand Desk these days. Is sitting for long periods of time really that bad for you? Yes! In fact, many experts go so far as to say that sitting in the new smoking. Sit still long enough to hear this tip, and you may take a stand against sitting. That truth is that the human body was developed for movement. A sedentary culture of sitting for long periods of time is taking a major toll on people’s health. When sitting for long periods, our bodies become less efficient. Sitting for more than six hours a day puts you on a very unhealthy path—even if you exercise. Sitting for long periods of time can actually make
READ MORE >>> →Want to change a young person’s attitude and behavior? Here is an example of how to have a student change both attitude and behavior. What I will be describing is not a mock school counseling session but an actual individual counseling session when I took the role of a school counselor in a counseling session to demonstrate essential counseling skills. The school counselor observed how I implemented counseling theories and counseling techniques in practice with a middle school girl who was the school’s most challenging student. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →The more problem solving you do for others, the more stress you’ll feel. When you stop focusing on solving everyone else’s problems, you’ll feel happier and more productive. You may know the term “monkey on your back,” which refers to some problem or challenge that needs to be addressed. But what happens when someone want to hand you their monkey? This tip is about what to do when someone wants to unload their monkey on you. When we do things for people that they can do for themselves, we deprive them of the opportunity to learn, grow, and become more self-sufficient. Here is a technique I used as an elementary, middle, and high school principal and as a district director
READ MORE >>> →Are you aware of the Levels of Development? Share a poem for younger people to learn values necessary in a democratic society. You may ask, what is a hierarchy? A hierarchy is a system of ranking. For example, you may be familiar with Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. This is a natural hierarchy of human well-being. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →Saying NO to others is common. Have you ever had to say “no” to a person? Of course you have. We all have. “No” is one of the shortest words in the English language. However, its constant use can prompt some of the biggest challenges in family and in other relationships. “No” is a negative word. How did you feel that last time someone said “no” to you? Chances are you felt sad, deflated, or maybe even angry. When you ask for something and hear “no,” it’s common to feel negativity. The negative response not only may prompt stress for the receiver of the comment, but it can also prompt negative feelings and some stress for the person giving the
READ MORE >>> →Are you aware of the advantages and disadvantages of conformity and the importance of obedience? Obedience and stress are perhaps best illustrated in the Stanley Milgram experiment of understanding submission and obedience to authority. Conformity and obedience are natural and necessary in any society. This is how cultures perpetuate their values and traditions. However, obedience can promote stress on the part of all concerned. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →Once you understand that you can control your children—but cannot CHANGE them—your stress will be reduced and you will gain the joy that parenting has to offer. Former U.S. President, Dwight David Eisenhower, served as the commanding officer of the United Nations forces during WWII. During that effort, “Ike,” as he was referred to, worked with a variety of different personalities from various countries. His definition of leadership is worth remembering: Leadership is the art of getting people to do something you want done because they want to do it. Read More
READ MORE >>> →Conquering fear is indeed possible. Doing so is important, because fear and negativity go hand-in-hand. In fact, fear is often a by-product of negative thoughts. Unfortunately, we have an innate capacity for fear. Well, fear not. This tip will enable you to face your fears head-on. And this is the best way for conquering fear once and for all! In 1919 psychologist John B. Watson conducted a controversial experiment to see whether fear could be learned. A young boy he named “Little Albert” was shown different creatures, including a rat. At first, Albert showed no fear of the rat. Then Watson paired the exposure with a harsh sound that scared the little boy. Soon, Little Albert would react with fear
READ MORE >>> →Would you believe that no school rules are better than classroom rules? When you understand the difference between classroom rules & procedures you will understand why my 5 simple classroom rules are so effective. You will also understand the reason that my basic school rules are essentially school rules in real life. Since the rules of the classroom are to promote responsibility, why not use a more effective term than classroom rules—such as responsibility. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →Do you suffer from an anxiety disorder? If you do, you’re not alone. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S. They affect 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year. You may not know exactly why you feel anxiety, but when you do, you probably think something bad is about to happen. Today’s tip will help put your anxiety at ease and reduce your stress greatly! Since anxiety is not a healthy emotion and is difficult to ignore, the trick is to manage it and put it to your use, rather than trying to ignore it. The first step is to acknowledge anxiety—since you cannot initially
READ MORE >>> →Do you find yourself reacting negatively rather than positively? Is your natural inclination to say, “NO” rather than “Yes?” Using negatives creates stress. If you understand how the brain works, this is easy to remember. The brain cannot picture a negative image. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →Most people strive for a state of happiness, but the fact is that staying unhappy is all too easy. It even comes naturally to some people. Here is a tip that is sure to turn your frown upside-down and invite happiness into your life. If you are in a funk, it is natural to be unhappy. Abraham Lincoln proclaimed, “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” But when you are in this state and do nothing about it, you are taking the easy way out. Is this in your own best interest? Of course not. When you’re unhappy or feeling sad, it is a shame to take the easy way out. You can take
READ MORE >>> →Know how to lose friends and alienate people? Have you ever had the experience of wanting to buy something, but the salesperson alienated you, or you were turned off so much that you did not buy from that person—that you felt estranged! Why lose friends and alienate people? Understanding how NOT to alienate or have someone not turned off is significant in reducing stress. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →Being a good listener is one of the keys to having strong relationships. If you’re not a good listener, chances are that many of the relationships in your life are strained. Think about this: If you ask yourself how you know someone cares for you, one of your responses is likely to be that you know because the person listens to you. Ask a husband about a good wife, and he is likely to say that he knows his wife cares for him because she listens to what he has to say. Ask a wife about a good husband, and she’ll respond that he listens to her. Even if we are saying something that is not really worth listening to, we
READ MORE >>> →Do you lack passion at your place of work? Do you put forth your maximum effort at your job? There is a natural human tendency to go to the negative rather than to the positive. Office negativity is not helpful. But there is a way to keep negativity away. For example, if you receive a note that your supervisor wants to see you before you leave for the day, the natural inclination is to assume that the meeting will have a negative connotation. There is no basis for this. It is a faulty assumption; it’s guesswork. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →Remember that in relationships with your children—regardless of age—not losing is more important than winning. As long as a person has a choice, that person does not lose. So, always offer choices or options—regardless of how small they may be. This is the easiest approach to avoid counterwill, the natural human tendency to resist coercion and the feeling of being controlled, which everyone resents. Read More
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