Anger management is an important skill to master these days. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with an emotional person? If you have, you probably realized it was an act of futility. This stress management tip will help you take the sting out of such future conflicts and be a master at anger management. Regardless of the person’s age or why they are upset, when an emotionally charged person is seeing red, is angry, or is overly obstinate, trying to reason with them is fruitless. The smart approach to diffuse the situation is to take a break. Therefore, suggest it. Set a time to return. It can be as short as two minutes. It’s as simple as saying,
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What ranks higher than the fear of snakes? Answer: How to get over the fear of public speaking in front of groups! My father was very articulate. People truly liked to have him engage in conversations because his ideas were so interesting. Yet, he had a dreaded fear of public speaking in front of groups. He had no difficulty in asking questions and stating his opinion even in large groups, but presenting ideas in front of a group prompted great stress in him. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →How successful you are at handling stress often comes down to one thing: Knowing what motivates you. Do you know what motivates you? Most people have never given this question a second thought. But when you know what motivates you, you can thrive in any stressful situation. Internal vs External Motivation Autonomy is a key driver of human behavior in traditional American culture. The most successful people are autonomous. As a result, they are able to handle stress successfully. Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs referred to autonomy as the level of “self-actualization.” The Levels of Development refers to this as Level D, Democracy. People operating at Level D take the initiative to do the right thing regardless of social pressures.
READ MORE >>> →Dealing with adversity is major challenge for many. However, adversity can be the launching pad to success. How you personally deal with adversity is the difference. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →To keep your stress level down, it’s important to fill your brain with positive thoughts. Why? Because the brain is like a sponge. It soaks up whatever is near. If positive thoughts dominate your day, your brain will soak that up. Likewise, if negativity dominates your thoughts, your brain will soak that up too. Getting rid of the negativity isn’t always easy. Think about this: The ghosts of what we erase on a computer remain deep within the system, electronically etched into the hard drive. Similarly, what goes into the human mind can remain to contaminate it or to enrich it. Let’s go back to the sponge analogy. If you soak a sponge in dirty water and squeeze it, dirty
READ MORE >>> →When someone has a great idea, how is it conveyed in a picture or cartoon? A light bulb appears over the person’s head! The image illustrates diffusion animation. That image of the lightbulb is an example of diffusion of light. And this illustration can serve to reduce stress. You can reduce your stress through diffusion by understanding the difference between a light bulb and a laser beam. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →When you eliminate your assumptions, you greatly reduce anxiety. Although assumptions are necessary, they are often the cause of needless stress and anxiety. When you understand how assumptions influence your feelings, you will enter a new stage of stress management. For example, let’s say that you learn that you will have a meeting with your supervisor later in the day. You can assume the meeting will be discouraging, or you can assume it will be encouraging. If you assume you will be discouraged after the meeting, and you are not, you will have fretted for nothing. With the opposite assumption, if you believe the meeting will bring you good news and it does not, you will be disappointed. No matter
READ MORE >>> →Why are so many people today dealing with anxiety more than ever before? The answer may surprise you, and this tip on how to relieve anxiety might just help. Stress and anxiety can affect people of all ages—whether a person is a student under stress or a person in retirement. The key to dealing with anxiety and stress is through effort, which leads to anxiety relief and reducing stress levels. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →I am excited to announce a new feature called “Ask Me Anything” (A.M.A) in my monthly newsletters. I invite YOU to submit QUESTIONS to me on ANY SUBJECT OR TOPIC. You can send your questions via e-mail. Read My Monthly Newsletter
READ MORE >>> →People often ask me how to relieve stress, especially when they are facing a failure of some sort. I usually ask them some basic questions to determine their attitude toward stress. Some common questions are: Does the phrase “Failure is NOT an option” stress you out? Is failure really a bad thing? Does failing at something reflect negatively on you? Can failure actually be a good thing? These are just a few of the many questions. Fortunately, this stress management tip won’t fail you, and you really will learn how to relieve stress during failure! First, realize that failure is NOT a negative. In fact, it is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that
READ MORE >>> →What are the benefits of smiling? Why is it good to smile? Smiling reduces stress. Scientists know that negative emotions can cause a cascade of biological reasons that harm the body. These include chronic stress that increases inflammation, and inflammation has been linked to a host of health problems. So give your life a smile. It is not a stretch to think that smiling is a cousin of happiness also prompts positive changes in the body. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →When it comes to time management, knowing the difference between what is urgent versus what is important is essential. Why? Because there is a marked difference between what is urgent and what is important. If you focus on the wrong one, or if you are continually diverting your attention between the two, chances are that your stress level will rise. Think of it this way: An urgent task may not be very important in the long run; however, an urgent task may demand immediate attention. In contrast to something urgent, an important task is something that moves you toward your goal. Where do you think you should focus your attention for optimal time management and lower stress? Before you answer
READ MORE >>> →Learning English can prompt confusion and stress, but spoken English is easier than written English. Ever hear the spelling rule “I” before “E”— except after “C”? English is “weird” and not a perfect “science.” Notice that the words “weird” and “science” do not follow this rule. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →We’ve all seen or been on the receiving end of teenage rebellion. If you are a teacher, parent, or guardian of a teen, then you know these teenage years can be stressful. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be! Most theories dealing with teens and teenage rebellion have focused on factors such as physical changes, emerging sexuality, new social pressures, and struggles between being a child and becoming an adult. As young people grow, conflicts arise. A prime reason is that the teen wants to become independent, but adults continue to exert authority with coercion and expect obedience. Attempts to control often lead to counterwill—the natural human tendency to resist being controlled. This leads to a power struggle,
READ MORE >>> →William James, the father of American psychology, phrased it this way, “ The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” The opening paragraph of my book, Discipline Without Stress, deals with perceptions of mindsets. It sets the stage for the entire book. My purpose is to have people be aware of how they phrase and verbalize their own thoughts because they have a significant affect on their perceptions and their beliefs. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →The opening paragraph of my book, Discipline Without Stress, deals with perceptions of mindsets. It sets the stage for the entire book. My purpose is to have people be aware of how they phrase and verbalize their own thoughts because they have a significant affect on their perceptions and their beliefs. You can see how perceptions and what you visualize affect your stress levels by the following little experiment. Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →If you are going to have a DMV license renewed or will help someone apply for a new drivers license in the near future, this tip can save much stress and frustration. Assumptions are the source of more problems, difficulties, and needless stress than any other cause. Renewing my license experience is but one simple example. Hopefully, my experience can save you much frustration and stress Watch Now
READ MORE >>> →How did Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist who survived Nazi death camps, manage stress? Viktor Frankl, psychiatrist and holocaust survivor, explained managing his stress while in a Nazi death camp in “Man’s Search for Meaning,” one of the most influential books of all time. In it he emphasized the importance of making meaning for one’s life. Here is an example from a classic tale about having meaning in your life, which has a direct effect on how you manage stress. A man was walking down the street when he came upon three workers at a construction site. All of them were doing the same job. He asked the first worker what he was doing. The worker replied, “Breaking up these rocks.”
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